So I was thinking about how mirrors and photos may perhaps impact how we feel and it occurred to me that where they are positioned may also influence our feelings as well.

Sticking with the eye accessing cues theme that I started in the last blog, I reasoned that most of the photos that I have of my and my family’s past are on dressers, side tables and generally below eye level.

Perhaps the physical height of my photos has some influence on how I remember them…

As discussed previously, looking down and to the left is the typical accessing cue for most (but by no means all) right handed people for internal discussion and down to the right is where we (typically) access “feelings”.

So when looking at photos that are resting below eye level, are we accidentally influencing the way we access the memories associated with the photo?

I do have a handful of photos on walls at or above eye level (in fact I have one hanging over the computer as I type this) and I’ve always thought that they looked more sunny and happy than the ones that are on the side board and dresser.

Could it be coincidence that the photos that I have to look up at (entering the visual accessing area) always look more happy and sunny? Having realised this I’m not sure I can be objective enough to say, but I’d be very grateful if you wanted to have a think about where your photos are and how they make you feel or how they look and tell me what you think.

Its not just about eye accessing cues though: what about the concept and symbolism of something being higher or above us? or the reverse: lower than or below us? Might the symbolism of this have an impact on how we perceive or remember our history or present self?

We often find that people who find stuff daunting or scary often describe them as “big” and “close”. Using NLP techniques, we encourage the client to make them “smaller” and “further away”. Could this same ability of our minds to represent these things, actually play against us when we’re so carefully choosing the right photo to fit the space on the wall above the bed? What about the ones next to the plant by the tv?

This is where I started thinking about the mirrors again: what would the impact of seeing yourself slightly higher than you on a regular basis? I guess it would probably depend on how you see things that are higher than you. Would you see yourself taller and higher (better) than you are now, or would you see yourself looking down at yourself? What about all those cheap mirrors that we buy which ever-so-slightly distort our image: sometimes thinner, sometimes fatter, sometimes shorter, sometimes taller…

Back to the photos again, wondering whether having photos of your past “staring down at you” is going to have a positive or negative or indeed any kind of effect on you. Or do you see them as sentinels of excellence showing you how wonderful you are and how exciting you can be?

Feng Shui and mirrors

Distoriting Mirrors can distort your self image

As JP pointed out on my last post: Feng Shui practitioners have great faith in mirrors and they hold the kind of “cure all” power that diamond does for crystal healers. I found an interesting article on the use of mirrors in Feng Shui and I’ve extracted some of the suggestions for you here:

• Keep your mirrors clean (could a dusty mirror have any effect on how you see yourself?)
• Make sure that they don’t distort your image (I mentioned this one above and I agree whole heartedly)
• Use plain mirrors not crazy mirror tiles (Could they produce a distorted image of yourself?)

It could be a case of glass half full or half empty… Or I could be talking utter codswallop… Who knows, but whatever it does, I hope that next time you catch yourself idly looking at one of you photos or in a mirror, you consider what might happen if you changed its position or angle. Just to see what changes, and if you feel any different.

What got me started thinking about this was more of the eye accessing cues that I’ve mentioned before. I was finding that I was spending a lot of time internalising thoughts and deconstructing stuff which is all internal discussion (down to the left in my eye accessing cues diagram). Now I’m sure that most of us have, at one time or another, experienced times when we are far too internally focussed and over-think stuff.

I hit upon the idea of making a conscious effort to spend more time looking up and around. By doing this, it immediately reduced my ability to access the internal dialogue area and increased the time I spent accessing the visual and auditory areas.

I found a complete shift in the way I was thinking!

Suddenly I was externally focused and where I was looking up I found visual memories or fantasies (calm yourselves not those kind of fantasies) popping into my head. Of course initially, I found that my eyes kept wandering downwards as my thoughts turned inwards but as soon as I realised I was looking down (and thinking too much about stuff), I forced myself to look up. It didn’t take long to turn this into an automatic response to look up instead of down (incidentally this has all sorts of additional benefits and I thoroughly recommend that you start looking up more).

What has this to do with mirrors and pictures?

I’ll tell you.

There are two parts to this: Mirrors and pictures, and positioning. I will talk about mirrors and pictures in this post and positioning in the next.

Mirrors and Pictures

It is often said that people with lots of mirrors in their houses have a tendency to be slightly vain or self obsessed.

I’m not sure I agree here as there is a counter argument that people who like to see images of themselves are happy with the way they look and that they are therefore happy in themselves. Of course the images here are present “live” images displayed in a mirror whenever they happen to look in one. For those who like NLP, you could say that they are in rapport with themselves through use of mirroring…

What about people who have a lot of pictures of themselves? Well my thinking on this as an idea, is that this is very similar to having a lot of mirrors around the place: the person gets to walk around and see pictures of themselves. Invariably these pictures are of happy or exciting times that they have experienced in the past.

Can you see where I’m going with this yet?

If a person who lives with a lot of mirrors is happy with the way they are now then is a person with lots of photos of themselves happy with themselves in their past?

My thoughts were this: if a person is feeling depressed because they feel their life isn’t going anywhere and they can’t see themselves having fun/excitement in the future, perhaps if they started placing mirrors around the house, they might start to mirror themselves and find that actually they aren’t so bad after all…

Its just a thought that I had.

So what about positioning?

You’ll just have to wait for the next post!

IEMT: A structured approach to change

IEMT or Integral Eye Movement Therapy is the brain child of Andrew T Austin (author of The Rainbow Machine) and earlier this year I had to privilege to attend his London course and become certified as an IEMT practitioner.

The course was organised by my friend Alan Whitton of www.WestEssexHypnotherapy.com and run out of Regent’s Park collage in central London and taught by its creator: Andrew (and I will admit to getting my copy of the Rainbow Machine signed at the start of the course).

The course was awesome and Andrew really knows how to deliver training and keep control of the class – NLP practitioners, of which there were lots, have a tendency to start “helping” each other on courses like this: Andrew told us we’d be poked in the face if we started doing this He also said that we could poke our partner in the face if they went beyond the elements of the practical exercises that he was giving us. It was a fun way of making sure we got the point: Stick to the course!

One of the things that really struck me about the course was that Andrew’s years of experience in neurosurgery and clinical neurology means that he really knows what he’s talking about and when he pulled out a model brain and started pointing at parts of the brain and explaining physically what they did and how they worked, I was very impressed. Why don’t more therapy courses include understanding the parts of the brain as a minimum? I had no idea that our olfactory bulbs have such a large and important part to play in memory.

What is Integral Eye Movement Therapy?

Essentially, it a structured interview approach to a complete therapy session (or sessions) involving several techniques, so I will discuss the main technique used here:

When we remember something, whether it be a visual memory, a sound or feeling or even when we have an inner conversation with ourselves, we tend to move our eyes off centre in one of 6 major directions. These are called eye accessing queues and the diagram below (and I apologise for this) shows the typical association for each of these for a typical right handed person (there are exceptions of course and as a general rule, left handed people should switch the sides).

Look up the the left and you're probably remembering something visual. And: Yes that is my mug shot

What you probably aren’t aware of is that the eye accessing stuff isn’t as straight forward as looking diagonally up and to the left when you remember the colour of your front door. How far left do you look? How far “upwards” do you look? How about your focus: is it close or far away? Have a go at it now and choose a couple of different things to recall: If you’ve been to the bottom of the Eiffel Tower in Paris, can you remember what it looked like when you stood at its base? Can you remember what your parents look like? Do you remember your desk at school? Have a go at these and notice how you will probably look up to the left (or right if left handed), but now are you aware of just how differently located these visual memories are in that “up” and “left” quadrant of your vision?

What IEMT is really powerful at is changing the way we feel about something (or in fact many things) and one element of the technique is to re-program the way in which you access a state of mind. For example, when you feel guilty or distressed about something, it is probably associated to a particular memory or series of memories. When you recall the memory, you recall the state and therefore feel bad.

I find this fascinating and by using IEMT, we can change the way in which you access the memories and feelings by changing the locations of your accessing cues.

IEMT is a therapy system

IEMT isn’t all about eye accessing cues – its much much more than that, but I hope it gives you something to think about. As Andrew T Austin says: “This is not the grand unified theory of therapy.” It is however one tool in my toolbox of therapy techniques and it is a very impressive technique for fast and thorough change. I’ve helped alcoholism, depression and even agoraphobia with this technique just to give you a sample of what I can use it with.

Ben White is a certified and insured practitioner of Integral Eye Movement Therapy

You can find me and other practitioners listed on the official IEMT web site, so if you’re not nearby London or Kent and think that it might help you, check out the site and see if one of the other practitioners lives anywhere near you. If you’re thinking of seeing me about some IEMT, you’ll be glad to know that my liability insurance specifically includes IEMT along with Hypnotherapy and NLP.

If you would like to read some more about IEMT, please checkout the page on my website dedicated to it: http://practitioneroftrance.com/Integral_Eye_Movement_Therapy.php