I have been reading a particularly good book at the moment (Best Served Cold by Joe Abercrombie) and during one rather intriguing conversation between two of the main antagonists, I was reminded of one of the earliest things I learned about body language and I started to ponder how you could use it to your benefit…
It is usually the case that your body language is a result of your state of mind thus waving the subtle flag that you’ve trodden in a well placed dog poo, lost your best tie to the shredder and had an ear full for killing the peace lilly in the hall when someone caught you emptying the dregs of your coffee into the base. And all since half past nine and you’ve got an appraisal meeting with the boss this afternoon…
All that is quite enough to get one worked up and in a state right when you want to be calm and efficient-looking.
In my mind, there are two main elements that I would want to address here:
The bad mood is easy to cure: Smile
Smiling will put you in a good mood
It sounds simple and it really is! Force a big smile on your face even though you really don’t feel like it and after a few minutes, you’ll forget all about forcing it and discover that you’ve somehow managed to give your bad mood the slip (you may even find yourself having a water cooler moment with the office hottie!).
The next step is also an easy one: Steeple your fingers
A classic confidence gesture
Just like the smile technique, steepling your fingers when you want to feel confident will help make you feel confident! Combine the two and you’ll be well away (not counting the chewed up tie of course).
The key is to notice your gestures and body language when you are in a resourceful (good) state and when you want to recall that state: simply recall the gestures and hey presto – resourceful state resumes!
I think it was at this point that I realised that I’d been staring at the person sat opposite me on the train and quickly had to bury myself back in the book before they started to wonder about my mental acuity.
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